20. If you want to succeed, if you want to live happily

It is natural for both males and females that they want to succeed and hope for a happy life. Possibility to succeed and live happily in present society and institution for females is very low compared to that for males; this makes females have greater hope for success and happiness. Of course, males have a great passion and desire for success since they aim for the pursuit of values.

- males and females who want to succeed but things are not done as they please

- males and females who are straying because they don't know what to do

- males and females who have a strong desire for success but give up easily due to their weak passion and will

- males and females who worry because of not satisfying outcomes even if they do their best

- males and females who think about their success but are not confident

- males and females who have given up thinking that they can never succeed even if they do their best

- males and females who are not fully focusing on their work due to anxieties even though they make efforts

- males and females suffering from difficulties and sadness

- males and females who think themselves unfortunate due to anxieties about their uncertain future

- males and females who have been worn out psychologically and physically due to repeated difficulties

- males and females who vaguely dream of living happily

- males and females who think living ordinarily is happiness

- males and females who think living without getting their mind hurt is happiness

- males and females who think living pleasantly is happiness

- males and females who think living comfortably is happiness

- males and females who think living a life doing whatever they want is happiness

- males and females who want to go back in the past when they were happy

There are many people who hope for and dream of their success and happiness, trying their best.

However, success and happiness are completely opposite. Success brings unhappiness; the desire for happiness weakens the will for success.

For success, you need to aim for a certain thing that is exterior, achieve it with passion; in order to generate the passion you need, the temporary mood of fun operates. On the contrary, you need to aim for the mind which is an interior thing and achieve it with love for happiness. To generate love you need, the emotion of liking, which is the unconscious, operates constantly. So, temporary moods of passion are at work for success whereas constant emotions of love are at work for happiness.

Then, how do we make both success and happiness at the same time?

Aiming for success, to achieve your goal with passion generates temporary moods; moods are repeatedly generated and extinct, which makes living with love that aims for happiness almost impossible. Also, aiming for happiness, to achieve it with love generates constant emotions, but it only operates temporarily and diminishes gradually. This makes living a life with the passion that aims for success almost impossible. 

Thus, for emotions to last, the unconscious must be at work, which is done naturally by understanding the operations of the mind and the unconscious.

Online treatment training allows us to achieve both success and happiness by adjusting our mind to make the unconscious operate through understanding the principles of how the mind and the unconscious operate and applying them to our daily lives.